books; quiet; Saturday nights at Borders; Friday nights at my office; my office; short commutes; cereal for dinner; writing entries; alone time; music; friends; size 10 clothes; size 12 clothes; decks and a pool; realistic expectations; intimacy; regular e-mail; God; cash balances; privacy; peaceful thoughts; a church family; plans; surprises; going out guilt-free; JMB on the Loop; Starbucks; me.